Last summer I posted a little bit about my husband being deployed. I thought I had deployments down back then!
I was totally wrong!
It looks like I needed a little bit more growth in the deployment area because my husband deployed again right before this virus started going crazy in the US.
So here I am this deployment, in a new state, during a pandemic and an earthquake, with no return date in sight for my husband.
It’s not just me. I personally know many military spouses facing this same reality.
My brain is trying to tell me this is a huge problem.
Deployment is not a problem.
Deployment is just a circumstance.
Since we are wired as humans to find problems, my brain immediately jumped to the negative 50% of deployment.
The only way to get through these crazy thoughts is to process emotions, especially right now during this time of global crisis.
I personally sat and processed my emotions of disappointment, uncertainty, and annoyance.
Especially annoyance!
I’m sure I’ll still be revisiting those emotions a few more times but I’ve been able to look for the positive 50% of this situation.
When I can’t quite believe something, I like to play around with possibilities.
It’s possible this is what is supposed to be happening, because it is.
It’s possible I’m going to come out of this even more competent and capable.
It’s possible that it is a good thing my husband is gone serving our country right now.
I really like this possibility.
He’s a guy that like to be doing things ALL the time, I mean ALL the time!
It would drive him crazy to be at home teleworking. He loves being around a lot of people and performing his duty. Right now he is still able to do his job and is somewhat sheltered from all the closures going on in the US.
So even though I’m without him, I’m thankful that my husband is happy and busy doing a job that he loves and serving our country.
If you can’t quite believe something you want to believe, play around with the possibilities. You’ll be amazed at what is actually believable.
Let me know if you need help! That’s what I’m here for!
