One Day More . . .

I thought this quote from one of my favorite plays, Les Mis, was appropriate for my post today. The song kept going through my head and I thought how applicable the lyrics are to life. Consider this line:

One day more.

Tomorrow you’ll be worlds away
And yet with you, my world has started!

One more day all on my own.

Will we ever meet again?

One time, before my husband deployed, he played this song for me!!!! Seriously. It was kind of sad and kind of amusing at the same time. He has a funny sense of humor. This past deployment he came up with a whole play list with this song, Leaving On A Jet Plane, and others.

How about this line:

One day more!
Another day, another destiny.

It’s amazing how one day can change the future direction of our life. For me the day I met my husband changed the entire course of my future. My life with him has been better than I ever imagined.

Today is one of those days that is going to change the direction of my life as well. I finally understand the importance of letting ourselves feel our emotions. I’ve been preaching this for a while, but it was reemphasized to me today.

As you may recall from my bio, I mentioned my struggles with my self-image. I worked through all those issues and I really do love myself and accept myself for who I am and what I look like now.

However . . . . . there are days where I get frustrated that I can’t eat whatever I want without consequences. Ever felt that way?! I was especially frustrated and disappointed today when I stepped on the scale and saw the number had climbed. I mean, my husband is coming home soon! Who doesn’t have a weight loss goal when they’re gone, right?

As I backed away from the scale, I kept trying to tell myself it was ok, it’s no big deal, it’s just a number and says nothing about me as a person. These thoughts were not working because I perceived my weight as a negative circumstance. You can never think a positive thought about a negative circumstance.

Circumstances are neutral! They are just the facts about what happened. Our thoughts are what make our circumstance positive or negative. See, I think the scale going up is a negative thing, my husband thinks it’s a positive thing. Same circumstance different thought.

Let’s go through a thought model:

Circumstance – I weigh (insert number)

Thought – I’m never going to lose this weight!

Feeling – Disappointment

Action – Wallow in misery, potentially eat more, buffer with food or something else so I don’t feel disappointment

Result – I don’t lose weight

Our results will always got back to our thoughts. If we think we’ll never lose the weight, we probably won’t. We unintentionally create results we don’t want from our thoughts, that is why it is important to monitor what we are thinking and learn to change our thoughts.

But first . . . . . .

Feel your emotions! I mentioned this in my last blog post about how it is important to feel our feelings before we come up with new thoughts. My new thoughts were not working because I hadn’t felt my disappointment.

As I was resisting my disappointment I remembered that I should feel my disappointment. For two minutes I sat on the couch in my room and just felt disappointed.

I almost cried.

It was painful.

And I survived.

And I realized that I could keep trying to lose weight one day more.

I came up with new thoughts.

Being brave and feeling negatives emotions every day does bring about another day, another destiny.